Adjusting has been weird...its like I have a newborn, except I don't...she is almost 3 and her personality is large and loud (so, she fits right in:) My body isn't jacked up like it is 'after baby' but there is alot the same--just a weird chaos--you know what I am talking about. I hate chaos and everything within me hates chaos. The thing is, it is going really good...there isn't one area that I can say is going bad. She is sleeping, I am sleeping, she is smart, very smart, loving and affectionate, she loves the kids, they love her, she is letting Charles pick her up, she eats....i think she is bonding well and she is hilarious. Although it is good, it is still chaos...transitional chaos. Just stuff being different. I know before long, this time will be a distant memory and I will struggle to bring it to mind, just like forgetting the trauma of childbirth-and we all know I know about some childbirth trauma...
anyway, i have good friends and they have been so kind...they have helped me with carpool and brought dinner and helped run my kids here and there and it has meant the world because i really don't deserve it...and my mom has helped me out a ton at home with the kids with the everyday stuff and distracting Alice so I can bathe:) I can't say thank you enough...so, for those yet to deal with such circumstances...I thought I would share the coping mechanism that has helped me the most from day to day: when I am feeling frustrated and on the 'verge', I just burst out into a round of 'Jesus take the wheel...take it from my hands...cause I can't do this on my own.....I'm letting go-o-o..." then, I die laughing, do a ridiculous crazy dance and feel much better. I'm serious. :) Hope this helps someone as much as it has helped me:) It has really saved me from myself...that, and a big dose of prayer!!!!
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I'll definitely try that!!! and I really think we moms have such a hard time because we are not rested and can't get enough sleep! It does get better but just takes time... not easy. Praying for you and hope things get better sooner than later.
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Hang in there! And look up "Jesus take the Wii" on YouTube sometime whn you REALLY need a laugh....you'll never think of that song the same way again!
ReplyDeletePraying for your family as you continue to adjust!
Okay, I am going to have to remember this coping mechanism when we get Caroline Faith home! I am the same way you are...cannot stand chaos, it makes me a crazy person!! :)
ReplyDeleteI love you! I felt for you tonight and wanted to do something to help cause I could tell you were having an "I'm overwhelmed moment" but I promise you no matter how loud Alice gets we are all just SO glad she is home! Nobody cares if she talks during church:)
ReplyDeleteHang in there. It gets better. =) Sarah Martin had a relatively easy transition into our family, but it took every bit of 6 months for everything to feel "normal" again. Your family is beautiful!
ReplyDeletetalk to me sometime about transition....we can laugh together after we cry on each others shoulders.
ReplyDeleteIt IS just like with a newborn, you are "grafting" someone into your family like you did with a newborn, only they have a personality and their own thoughts and desires...and well, it can be REALLY tough. But, it does seem to get better...with time. Just hang on and try to enjoy these days.